A woman is looking for outside perspectives after her husband asked her to cancel a work retreat following his hair transplant. The pair share two children, and the husband, the Reddit user wrote, “never plans or researches in advance” and now wants her to call off a work trip so he doesn’t have to take their children to school “His head may be sore and bald but should not impede a pick up and drop off,” she wrote A woman is looking for the internet’s perspective after her husband asked her to cancel a work-related trip while he recovered from hair-transplant surgery. The
full-time corporate worker wrote in an anonymous post on Sharing Info‘s popular “Am I the A——” forum that her husband, with whom she shares two children under the age of 7, “flew overseas for a hair transplant” and is now asking her to reschedule something important to her.
As the woman explained, her husband — who “never plans or researches in advance” — apparently disregarded the fact that she had a two-day work retreat coming up, which is “important exposure” for her. But now, by the time she leaves, her husband will be “post-op” for three days.
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“Last night he texted that he needed me to cancel my trip because ‘he is recovering from surgery,’ ‘put him first’ and ‘I’m going to be beyond mad if you do this to me and do not put me first the one time I am asking’ and if I go he won’t take the kids to school,” the Reddit user wrote, who noted that they live in New York where “everyone walks to school.”
“His head may be sore and bald but should not impede a pick up and drop off,” she added. “My trip has been planned for about six months. His main gripe is that he will be seen so close to surgery. He did not need to choose this date and up until yesterday, this was the plan.”
The original poster added that she puts “everyone first” and didn’t think she needed to cancel on her trip and thought it was selfish for her husband to tell her the “trip is stupid.”
“I am always impacted by his last-minute changes and impulses,” she wrote. “I am supportive of doing something that makes him feel better about himself but why should I miss this last minute? Am I being selfish or is he being selfish?”
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Ultimately, Reddit was on the woman’s side, with the most upvoted response noting that “if he could fly home, overseas, he’s fine,” as another commenter asked why he can’t “take the kids to school and feed them” if he’s able to fly home.
“He’s being selfish as hell for trying to guilt you over a hair transplant he planned poorly,” another user wrote. “Go on your trip, he’ll survive.”
“Oh, isn’t he so precious for a vanity procedure over a work trip that was known about way before hand,” another person commented, writing that she wasn’t the “a——” in the situation.
As for what happened next, the original poster wrote in an update that she indeed ended up leaving for her work trip.
